I must say the lack of education behind some sentences that I've been reading and hearing lately is quite astounding. I know I have been guilty of voicing opinions and discovering that I did not have all the facts, but there's some matters that until I understood the ins and outs I never thought to open my mouth (or set my fingers on the keyboard).
When it comes to your health, do not be uneducated. Know what the recorded/possible side effects are for any treatment. Talk to your doctor about your goals and desires. Find a regiment that suits not only your affliction but your wants and desires as best as possible. You'll find you heal much better when you are fully confident in not only your treatment but your relationship with your doctor.
Look outside the box for safe ways to boost your treatments both naturally and through new methods. There's a lot of things out there that can help you. I am glad to have found one that is not only safe but 100% effective in assisting me through my treatments.
My recent decision to "not go gentle into that good night" of waiting several years for reconstruction has brought a lot of people thinking they know everything to the plate. There are people saying:
1. we should be happy to be alive.
2. there are people that are worse off.
3. reconstruction is offered at time of mastectomy.
4. we should stop throwing a "pity party".
5. there's only TWO doctors in all of Nova Scotia that can do the reconstruction.
Well, guess what, there's answers to all these statements that are found through actually being in the system and educating one's self on the dynamics of this cause.
1. "we should be happy to be alive."
Not once have we ever stated we were not happy and/or grateful to be alive. We are very much enjoying being able to see our family, play with our children (grandchildren where applicable), hug our loved ones, enjoy our friends, continue our hobbies, and even simply breathe. Do not assume we take our lives for granted. We saw the possibility of death and we looked in the eye and said "NO!"
2. "there are people that are worse off."
Why, yes! There are! There are those that did not make it through their journey and did die of cancer. There are people out there with other diseases and ailments. But guess what, if they were offered a way to feel somewhat normal, I bet they'd fight their butts off to be more normal now and not in 5 years.
3. "reconstruction is offered at time of mastectomy."
I assure you it is! It's also denied to most that ask for it. And some can pressure the doctors into it, but not all. I demanded it. I begged for it. I did NOT get it, like many, many others.
4. "we should stop throwing a 'pity party'."
This is not a "pity party". We want what we were promised, what we have a right to. And we are not going to stand idly by while someone tells us that since we are now "cancer free" we "can wait". I'm sorry but being told that the only way I can get my breast reconstructed within a matter of months is to go to the next province over is ludicrous.
5. "there's only TWO doctors in all of Nova Scotia that can do the reconstruction."
Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but no, there's more than two surgeons in our province that can do reconstructions. I personally haven't counted all of them but I assure you there's well over half a dozen in Nova Scotia alone.
For anyone that has not looked into this already, please pop over to Facebook and join our group in fighting for the right to have Reconstruction Sooner for Cancer Survivors! Thank you